There are people in life who have to say what they believe no matter where they are, no matter the company, no matter the situation. I would say a six-year-old’s birthday party is not the place to proclaim one is racist and does not care who knows it, but who am I? When the person is a family member it makes the situation much worse. First, I cannot believe the person shares the same DNA as my children. Second, to be lumped in with such ignorance makes my skin crawl. Lately, I have heard more and more of these types of situations popping up and they seem to escalate around the holidays.
Why do you have to show up to family gatherings at all? You seem only to make an appearance to let everyone know you are still racist. We knew it last year. We know it this year. Stay home and let your racism die with you, or keep your mouth shut when you are in presence of my family. Try eating some of the delicious food instead of running your mouth.
Here is what happened. This person came over to our home and joined in our birthday celebration. The conversation quickly turned to government, guns and blah blah blah, like it always does when this person is around. On the topic of gun control I lamented the fact the media makes out all gun owners to be crazy, racist, whites. I said mothers and fathers in the inner city are gun owners as well, and they deserve to have a voice in the debate. It was at that moment this man decided to let everyone in the room know he was racist, and he did not care what anyone thought about it. My stomach fell into my feet.
Seriously? I told him racism made no sense because there is only one race. He argued with me. I said, “So, you don’t believe Jesus died on the cross for them?” He argued with me more and pretty much said no. He then dropped the N word a few times. I stressed I did not believe in calling people that name. I asked what he thought about white trash, he said he hated them too. (How nice. His hatred was noticeably less.) I said I believed in “thugs” and they had no color, they just live for themselves, take what they want, and step on everyone in their way. He turned to another family member and said “Sounds like a n****r to me.” Then another family member who was sensing my growing wrath turned to me and basically said he didn’t mean the good blacks, just the bad ones. I felt vomit rising in my throat. He quickly asserted that he meant all of them. (He was very proud to let me know there were two black men in town the he would ALLOW to sit at his table. What a gentleman!)
I reminded everyone the Bible commands us to love our neighbors, not just our white neighbors. ALL neighbors. He scoffed and told me the Old Testament told a different story. He said the Bible specifically says we are not to intermarry with other races. To that a few other family members NODDED THEIR HEAD in agreement. I shook my head and said those verses had nothing to do with race, but with marrying those outside of the faith. He proceeded to tell a complete BS story about Moses killing Aaron’s wife and family because he had married a black woman. I told him I had never read anything like that. He then looked at the person sitting next to him and said the Bible has the word n****r in it TWICE. I asked him to show me in the Bible where it said that word. He quickly clammed up and said it was in his King James version but probably not in any of our versions. When I pressed him on the story of the Ethiopian who wanted to know God’s word and how to be saved he said the Ethiopian must have been the one okay black person in the Bible.
The conversation died, and everyone quickly left. I was left to stew and steam all night. How can such ignorance still exist in this day and age? That night I did a Google search to see if any version of the Bible had any form of the N-word in it. No. So where did he get this nonsense? In all his years of being a practicing “Christian”, did someone teach him this from the pulpit? I wrestled with it all night. I woke up early and did another Google search to see what the deal was on “mixing races”. In my reading of the Bible, I have NEVER come across anything even remotely hinting at segregation. What came up in the search was astounding.
Did you know there are still churches using certain verses to justify the hate of other people? Did you know churches exist that will kick out members for marrying someone of another skin color?
The same people who will jump right to the New Testament when it comes to eating pig will fall in love with the Old Testament when it comes to intermarriage. They are so blind to how wrong they are. Here are the common verses used to argue against marrying outside of ones skin color:
“As you saw the iron mixed with soft clay, so they will mix with one another in marriage, but they will not hold together, just as iron does not mix with clay.” Daniel 2:43 (Just who is the clay in this scenario? Black people? White people? Oh sure, white people are strong just like iron. Eye roll.)
“You shall keep My statutes. You shall not let YOUR CATTLE breed with a different kind. You shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed nor shall you wear a garment of cloth mixed with two kinds of materials.” Leviticus 19:19
You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly. -Deuteronomy 7:3-4
Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Cushite woman whom he had married, for he had married a Cushite woman. -Numbers 12:1 (Oh you mean it was MOSES who married the Cushite? Someone had their story wrong!!!)
I could go on, but you get the picture. These verses have NOTHING to do with marrying out of ones “race”. They have to do with marrying out of ones religion. God warned many times against being unequally yoked. There are multiple stories of great people who allowed idols to creep into daily life and destroy the faith of the Hebrews. Not to mention the verse about cattle, seeds and cloth…good grief. To make the verse relevant to the topic one would have to demote all other colors of people to the status of animal. How cruel and heartless. How far from the message of Christ.
I would ask anyone who believes these falsehoods to search themselves deeply. Is the hatred of another group of people worth your eternal salvation? Thank God for the message of Galatians 3:28. We are neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free…. I would humbly ask those who discriminate against others to remember; were it not for the message of Christ as given to Paul, we Gentiles would not be part of God’s family. It would not matter what color we are, had He not adopted us and made us c0-heirs and instantly the sons of Abraham, we would be lost.
I said this on Twitter last night: Jesus was a Hebrew. We are all either a few shades lighter, or a few shades darker than Him. The color of our skin means NOTHING to Him. He sees our hearts.
Can you look at others like He does?